Beliefs shape the illusion that we experience as reality. By having a belief, we choose the facet of consciousness that we want to experience and automatically reject other realities so we can experience that reality fully. Sometimes we get so caught up in our reality that we forget that other realities exist, we attach ourselves to our beliefs and experience pain.
Letting go of beliefs is learning to accept and love all realities as valid facet of all of consciousness. We understand that every reality is our own consciousness, and thus cannot judge any situation. We learn to love every reality and feel loved by all of reality.
Emotions are the key
Your Higher Self already wants you to expand your consciousness and let go of beliefs, so it will purposely project into your reality situations that will trigger you and make you feel negative emotions. These emotions are cues for you to observe beliefs.
A common mistake we do is blame a person or a situation that is happening in the illusion for the emotions that we feel. It’s very important to recognize that all emotions are towards the self and are caused by our beliefs.
It’s very easy to get upset because your girlfriend broke up with you, but you’re not upset because SHE doesn’t want to be with YOU anymore. You’re upset because YOU feel like YOU’re not “good enough”, or YOU feel like YOU don’t deserve to be loved.
These are the beliefs that are causing you to feel pain.
When we take responsibility over all our emotions, we take power over our emotions from the people or situations that we initially blamed. Taking that power is the first step to our transformation.
So when you feel a negative emotion, rejoice! This is an opportunity for you to discover a belief that is holding you back from unconditional love.
Step 1: Honoring the Emotion
Once we feel an emotion, it’s important to accept it and let it be. Resisting, fighting or ignoring an emotion is judging the emotion, meaning that we’re not accepting the message the feeling is bringing to us regarding the underlying belief. Judging an emotion clouds our focus on the situation. So it’s very important to honoring the emotions and accept them.
Sometimes, we trigger a second emotion to cover up the first. This is just another way to resist the emotion. For example, quite often frustration and anger are a cover up for sadness. When this happens, it’s best to honor the second emotion, and when it passes we can proceed to honor the initial one.
If we do resist an emotion and squish it, it’s difficult to follow the process to let go of a belief. A good step to take at this point is to follow a process to find out why we squished the emotion instead. This allows us to stop judging ourselves for feeling these emotions.
Step 2: Self-Interrogation
Once we’ve honored, allowed ourselves to feel the emotion and accepted it, it passes. This allows us to move on in the process and figure out what triggered the emotion. The belief structures are already in you and you can simply ask yourself questions to uncover the underlying beliefs. Here’s a list of questions that will help:
What would I have to believe is true in order to react to this, this way?
What would I prefer to believe is true to respond that way?
What would I have to believe is true about my relationship to this situation that I would react to it in a negative way?
Why do I feel this way?
Why am I being stuck?
Sometimes the answers won’t be beliefs; you can keep pressing until you get to a belief.
Q: Why do I feel this way?
A: Because I made those choices.
Q: Why did I make those choices?
A: Because I have this belief.
If it’s a reoccurring belief, there is most probably an underlying belief or a core belief underneath it. If you keep digging you will eventually get to it. You can cater questions to these reoccurring beliefs:
Why do I believe this?
Why am I still playing this belief?
What am I hooked on to?
I’ll use an example to clarify this point:
Q: What would I have to believe is true in order to react to this, this way?
A: I believe that I don’t deserve to be loved.
Q: Why do I believe that I don’t deserve to be loved?
A: Because I’m not attractive.
Sometimes, a belief has to do with a story that you experienced (usually at a young age) that you haven’t let go of. Sometimes it’s general, other times it’s a specific story:
What story do I have attached to this?
Q: What would I have to believe is true in order to react to this, this way?
A: I don’t deserve to be loved.
Q: This belief again… what story do I have attached to this?
A: My mother didn’t pay a lot of attention to me when I needed it.
The answers are the first answers that come to mind. Any other though process that comes after that is your ego attempting to complicate things or divert your attention away from the beliefs, because it’s the ego’s job to reinforce beliefs so that you can fully experience a reality.
Cameron Gray – Cage
Step 3: Questioning the belief
Once you’ve uncovered the belief, it’s time to figure out if the belief serves you. Some beliefs can sometimes seem useful to keep, however if they made you feel a negative emotion, they usually aren’t. Here are some helpful questions:
How does this belief serve me?
What benefit do I get out of it?
Why do I feel like this belief benefits me?
Are the benefits of the belief completely whole? Can it cause ups and downs of emotions?
Is the belief sustainable? Does it take away from my experiences or does it help them?
A belief that benefits you will make you feel whole, meaning that there won’t be a fluctuation of emotions that can come out of it.
Q: What would I prefer to believe is true to respond that way?
A: I believe everyone in the world should be fair.
Q: How does this belief serve me?
A: It allows me to be fair to everyone.
Q: That’s ok, but that doesn’t mean other people will be fair with me. Is this belief whole or can it create ups and downs of emotions?
A: Well, if someone takes advantage of me, I wouldn’t be happy.
Q: So does the belief serve me?
If a belief doesn’t serve, there is no reason to keep carrying it.
Note: When we start the process of letting go of beliefs, our ego gets interested and sometimes attempts to “program” or remove programs that don’t serve. “Learning to fly” does not serve you (hehe). If you’re attempting to “program” a belief in you, ask yourself the same questions to differentiate what your ego would want and what your Higher Self wants.
Step 4: Letting Go of the Beliefs
You’ve done all the hard work, now all you gotta do is let go of the belief. And it’s just as simple as telling yourself:
“I’m letting go of this belief.”
That’s it; identifying a belief is all you need to do to let go of a belief. There are 3 possible reasons (that I know of) why this wouldn’t work:
You have a belief that says that it takes more work than that IE: I can’t let go of a belief just by identifying it.
You haven’t identified an underlying/core belief behind the initial belief
You’ve attached a story to the belief and need to accept and let go of that experience.
What comes next?
Your Higher Self will still create a situation to test the belief that you’ve just let go of. If you get triggered, there’s still a belief. If you don’t, then you will integrate that experience into consciousness and your Higher Self will no longer project the situation in your reality. If you’re “stuck” somewhere because of your beliefs, all you have to do is following the synchronicities that your Higher Self will project for you to get out.
Sometimes situations reoccur again in your life, the only difference is that you actually won’t care about it happening to you. So don’t expect things to happen exactly as you’d want it. Enlightenment is when you see every possible reality as perfect, not when you get the perfect reality that you want.
In fact, if you’re expecting it to be a certain way, and only that way, it would mean you have a belief attached to it. So don’t get caught up in a little loop trying to fix everything in you to change your reality and be happy… I’m talking from personal experience here.
– Marty’s Spiritual Manifesto.